Why do we as women/mothers always seem to cut each other down? No matter what decision we make, someone has an opinion telling us we're wrong, and how were destroying our child. Being a parent is hard, and making decisions for another person is not easy, we already have enough stress about it without others telling us were wrong.
Breastfeeding, obviously everyone in the world know that's breastfeeding is the best option for a baby, if it works out. My oldest I tried, until I had mastitis twice the first month, and he was unable to keep my milk down. Both his and my doctor said it was probably the best to try another route. My 2nd I did everything wrote in the how to breastfeed books wrong, and at 3 months he refused a bottle and decided we were extended breastfeeding.
And yes no one needs to judge anyone on how long they breastfeed be it 1 day or 3 years! It's none of your business.
Stay at home mom's vs working mothers. Sometimes a mom has to stay at home, or she has to go to work. It is in no way more or less important. I hate the "oh what do you do with all your spare time?" Questions, just because you stay at home doesn't mean you have a spare second.
This one is big in the autism world, medication! This is so child specific, if your child responded to essential oils, diet changes, ect that is great! But that does not give you room to judge a mother for using medication to help her child. Some children essential oils don't work on, or diet changes are impossible when your kid eats 4 foods. No one wants to jump into the world of medication, it's a juggling act trying to find the right combination, but sometimes it's the best. So stop judging.
One of the most ridiculous of them all, LEASHES! Everyone has an option on these. If your child is not a flight risk, then lucky you. For us with children that if they get out of hands for a split second they will be gone, it's a necessity. Why in the world do we judge people for trying to keep their kids safe the best way the can? Would you judge them for putting locks on their cupboards? Don't make comments about them until you understand why a parents using them.
There's a million other things we judge on, Circumcision or not, Vaccination or not (and I don't wan to start a debate on this, my kids are vaccinated, but I hate when people say "I'd rather my kids have autism then a deadly disease" they are completely disregarding the fact that Autism can be deadly. I'm in no way saying "autism is caused by vaccines" or that it's not, just saying stop using that line.)
We are all trying to do the best we can, and you are doing a great job! next time you see a mom, and shes having a hard time, or even if she's not, let her know that she's doing great! There is no need to cut down another mother because she may make a different choice than you would.
